Fire of freedom and purity is the nature of everysoul... The soul is one with freedom, and the soul is one with existence, and the soul is one with knowledge.
- Swami Vivekananda
Wednesday, August 23, 2006
Monday, August 21, 2006
Bravo!
While I can run, I'll run;
while I can walk, I'll walk;
when I can only crawl, I'll crawl.
But by grace of God, I'll always be moving forward.
- Cavett Robert
while I can walk, I'll walk;
when I can only crawl, I'll crawl.
But by grace of God, I'll always be moving forward.
- Cavett Robert
Sunday, August 20, 2006
A step-by-step guide to charisma
I came across this beautiful article and wanted to share it with you. The article is published by BBC and is written by Tom Geoghegan of BBC News Magazine. the actual link to article is given at the end.
The article discusses that charisma is no longer an elusive trait but can be measured and learnt. Some people had raised their concerns similar to this. The article also provides a few points to impove your charisma trait.
It is a good article. I hope more people would be convinced of the power that charisma can bring in you.
Article starts here
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Scientists claim to have found the secret to that magical quality, charisma, and they say it can be learnt.
Willy Loman in Arthur Miller's Death of a Salesman is deluded in believing that charisma, or being "well-liked" as he calls it, is more important than ability in making a person a success.
His philosophy is exposed as flawed but he did have half a point. After all, most of the greatest leaders in history possessed a star quality that drew others to them.
Churchill, Napoleon and Martin Luther King had a magnetism which is often easier to identify than it is to explain.
Until now.
Researchers say having an infectious personality induces others to copy your body language and facial expressions.
The study, led by British Professor Richard Wiseman, involved more than 200 people taking part in FameLab, a national competition to find the new "faces of science". The ones who scored highest in a questionnaire about how much they seem to transmit their emotions to others also progressed the furthest in the competition, when they used their personalities to impress a panel of judges.
"When you see someone else who has charisma, without realising it, you're mimicking their posture and their facial expressions," says Professor Wiseman, a psychologist. "An obvious example is when someone smiles at you and you smile back. And how you hold yourself influences your emotions."
You're unaware you're mimicking this person, although you know they make you feel happy, he says.
A charismatic person has three attributes, says the professor:
• they feel emotions themselves quite strongly;
• they induce them in others;
• and they are impervious to the influences of other charismatic people.
But don't despair if you haven't got these qualities because you can learn them. Professor Wiseman estimates charisma is 50% innate and 50% trained. His tips include keeping an open body posture and communicating your ideas clearly.
Broadcaster and confidence tutor Jeremy Milnes agrees that techniques can make a huge transformation, and says nearly all the people he's worked with have improved. Key areas are listening, asking questions and not trying too hard to be the centre of attention.
"There are some people who are just lucky buggers and are just naturally charismatic, like Johnny Depp, David Bowie and Marilyn Monroe," he says. "But I honestly believe that these are techniques and skills which can be learnt and practised and can be made part of your own behaviour.
"I don't deny there's a bit of magic there, but these are things which can be worked on. They're not out of people's reach. You might not learn them all but you may be comfortable with some of them."
Charisma plays a huge part in bringing success because it goes hand-in-hand with self-confidence, he says. But although it can be learnt, it can't be faked.
"Whatever skills and techniques you have are routed from your own personality, so you don't come across as fake or insincere. There's nothing worse than that."
Michael Mallows, an author and personal development coach, says whether the group he addresses is five, 50 or 500, he usually has their full attention within 10 minutes. Although he teaches people to keep their integrity and avoid over-selling themselves in interviews, it can happen.
Full Article can be found at http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/4579681.stm
Get full revealations of Charisma and techniques which you can practice to become Charismatic and exude Power
The article discusses that charisma is no longer an elusive trait but can be measured and learnt. Some people had raised their concerns similar to this. The article also provides a few points to impove your charisma trait.
It is a good article. I hope more people would be convinced of the power that charisma can bring in you.
Article starts here
---------------------------
Scientists claim to have found the secret to that magical quality, charisma, and they say it can be learnt.
Willy Loman in Arthur Miller's Death of a Salesman is deluded in believing that charisma, or being "well-liked" as he calls it, is more important than ability in making a person a success.
His philosophy is exposed as flawed but he did have half a point. After all, most of the greatest leaders in history possessed a star quality that drew others to them.
Churchill, Napoleon and Martin Luther King had a magnetism which is often easier to identify than it is to explain.
Until now.
Researchers say having an infectious personality induces others to copy your body language and facial expressions.
The study, led by British Professor Richard Wiseman, involved more than 200 people taking part in FameLab, a national competition to find the new "faces of science". The ones who scored highest in a questionnaire about how much they seem to transmit their emotions to others also progressed the furthest in the competition, when they used their personalities to impress a panel of judges.
"When you see someone else who has charisma, without realising it, you're mimicking their posture and their facial expressions," says Professor Wiseman, a psychologist. "An obvious example is when someone smiles at you and you smile back. And how you hold yourself influences your emotions."
You're unaware you're mimicking this person, although you know they make you feel happy, he says.
A charismatic person has three attributes, says the professor:
• they feel emotions themselves quite strongly;
• they induce them in others;
• and they are impervious to the influences of other charismatic people.
But don't despair if you haven't got these qualities because you can learn them. Professor Wiseman estimates charisma is 50% innate and 50% trained. His tips include keeping an open body posture and communicating your ideas clearly.
Broadcaster and confidence tutor Jeremy Milnes agrees that techniques can make a huge transformation, and says nearly all the people he's worked with have improved. Key areas are listening, asking questions and not trying too hard to be the centre of attention.
"There are some people who are just lucky buggers and are just naturally charismatic, like Johnny Depp, David Bowie and Marilyn Monroe," he says. "But I honestly believe that these are techniques and skills which can be learnt and practised and can be made part of your own behaviour.
"I don't deny there's a bit of magic there, but these are things which can be worked on. They're not out of people's reach. You might not learn them all but you may be comfortable with some of them."
Charisma plays a huge part in bringing success because it goes hand-in-hand with self-confidence, he says. But although it can be learnt, it can't be faked.
"Whatever skills and techniques you have are routed from your own personality, so you don't come across as fake or insincere. There's nothing worse than that."
Michael Mallows, an author and personal development coach, says whether the group he addresses is five, 50 or 500, he usually has their full attention within 10 minutes. Although he teaches people to keep their integrity and avoid over-selling themselves in interviews, it can happen.
Full Article can be found at http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/4579681.stm
Get full revealations of Charisma and techniques which you can practice to become Charismatic and exude Power
Dripping Charisma
He was crippled by polio but full of charisma. :-)
Franklin Roosevelt's campaign for president.
Albany, New York, in June, 1932.
Saturday, August 19, 2006
Defining and Understanding Charisma
The dictionary defines charisma as a rare personal quality attributed to leaders who arouse fervent popular devotion and enthusiasm. or rare personal magnetism or charm.
The word charisma has originated from the Greek word kharisma which means gift or divine favor. Kharisma itself comes from kharis which literally means favor.
Charisma refers to a rare trait found in certain human personalities usually including extreme charm and a magnetic quality of personality and/or appearance along with innate and powerfully sophisticated personal communicability and persuasiveness.
In short, charisma is often used to describe a seemingly uncanny ability to charm or influence people. It refers especially to a quality in certain people who easily draw the attention and admiration of others due to a magnetic quality of personality and appearance.
Though the term as it stands is extremely difficult to define, other similar terms related to charisma include grace, exuberance, equanimity, mystique, positive energy, charm, personal magnetism, personal appeal, electricity and allure, among many others.
But many of these qualities must be present within a single individual for the person to be considered highly charismatic by the public and their peers.
Charismatic individuals generally project unusual confidence, calmness, assertiveness, authenticity, and focus, along with superb communication skills. Early Greeks believed that charisma was a divine favor or gift of grace, implying that this divine quality was an inborn trait.
Today however it is believed that charisma can be taught and learned despite the persistent inability to accurately define or even fully understand it.
The study, recognition, and development of charisma in individuals is of particular interest to
sociologists,psychologists, popular politicians, public speakers, actors, movie stars,producers, casting directors, pop-music stars, trainers,coaches and academicians or others involved in leadership studies or leadership development, among others.
German sociologist Max Weber defined charismatic authority to be one of three forms of authority, the other two being traditional authority and legal or rational authority. According to Weber, charisma is defined as a certain quality of an individual personality, by virtue of which she is set apart from ordinary people and treated as endowed with supernatural, superhuman, or at least specifically exceptional powers or qualities. These as such are not accessible to the ordinary person, but are regarded as divine in origin or as exemplary, and on the basis of them the individual concerned is treated as a leader.
Charisma has also been studied as a set of behaviors/traits; for example, a modern psychological approach posits that charisma is basically aggregative, a conglomeration of distinct personality traits that meld well in certain individuals to form the broad quality known as charisma.
Theatrically, charisma can actually be performed on-stage and in films, and is encapsulated in verbal and non-verbal communication.
The word charisma has originated from the Greek word kharisma which means gift or divine favor. Kharisma itself comes from kharis which literally means favor.
Charisma refers to a rare trait found in certain human personalities usually including extreme charm and a magnetic quality of personality and/or appearance along with innate and powerfully sophisticated personal communicability and persuasiveness.
In short, charisma is often used to describe a seemingly uncanny ability to charm or influence people. It refers especially to a quality in certain people who easily draw the attention and admiration of others due to a magnetic quality of personality and appearance.
Though the term as it stands is extremely difficult to define, other similar terms related to charisma include grace, exuberance, equanimity, mystique, positive energy, charm, personal magnetism, personal appeal, electricity and allure, among many others.
But many of these qualities must be present within a single individual for the person to be considered highly charismatic by the public and their peers.
Charismatic individuals generally project unusual confidence, calmness, assertiveness, authenticity, and focus, along with superb communication skills. Early Greeks believed that charisma was a divine favor or gift of grace, implying that this divine quality was an inborn trait.
Today however it is believed that charisma can be taught and learned despite the persistent inability to accurately define or even fully understand it.
The study, recognition, and development of charisma in individuals is of particular interest to
sociologists,psychologists, popular politicians, public speakers, actors, movie stars,producers, casting directors, pop-music stars, trainers,coaches and academicians or others involved in leadership studies or leadership development, among others.
German sociologist Max Weber defined charismatic authority to be one of three forms of authority, the other two being traditional authority and legal or rational authority. According to Weber, charisma is defined as a certain quality of an individual personality, by virtue of which she is set apart from ordinary people and treated as endowed with supernatural, superhuman, or at least specifically exceptional powers or qualities. These as such are not accessible to the ordinary person, but are regarded as divine in origin or as exemplary, and on the basis of them the individual concerned is treated as a leader.
Charisma has also been studied as a set of behaviors/traits; for example, a modern psychological approach posits that charisma is basically aggregative, a conglomeration of distinct personality traits that meld well in certain individuals to form the broad quality known as charisma.
Theatrically, charisma can actually be performed on-stage and in films, and is encapsulated in verbal and non-verbal communication.
Explore Your Past – How to Learn From Memories
Who you are today, your personality and your values, depends on the past events that shaped you. You can always find connections between a present thought or feeling and a past event, no matter how far away it might seem.
Explanations for present events can be found by going through some memories, and this practice shows you how to do that. By trying this you will be able to reinterpret yourself, by learning not to judge your actions but to accept and understand them.
Begin by finding a comfortable position, in a chair or armchair. Have a piece of paper or notebook and a pen ready and put them besides you. Try to relax your body and your mind and breathe rhythmically through your nose. When you have achieved a state of increased self-awareness go back in time and think of an unpleasant memory that has marked your entire life.
You don’t have to find something dramatic – in childhood, for example, even the most insignificant looking remark may have a huge impact on your personality. Let’s say that, as a child, you broke a crystal vase that your mother held dear. She might have said: “You can’t do anything right!” Of course, that was just an anger driven reaction on her part that disappeared after a short while but you, as a child, were deeply affected by it.
When you have selected your past event try to briefly write it down and finish with a phrase that summarizes your experience (e.g. “You can’t do anything right!”). Make sure your breathing is still rhythmical and relaxed and then think about a minimum of three things that you can learn from that past experience. Do not get stuck on the final phrase, but try to analyze your action in a non-judgmental manner.
The main idea is to identify and assimilate the things that you could have improved. Don’t quickly dismiss your past problem by saying “it was a child’s mistake”. The goal here is to find out how any mistake can teach you to become better, instead of lowering your self-esteem and confidence.
When you have found a few positive remarks about the past experience try to write them down. Don’t force your mind to come up with the ideas; instead, try to let everything flow naturally. After you’re done writing make sure to read the statements a couple of times and remember their essence.
Put the paper aside and get back to connecting with your breathing. Take a minute or two to focus solely on your breathing and then recall the positive ideas you jotted down on the piece of paper. As an example, in the case of the broken vase, you could write: “I have to concentrate more on my actions”. Repeat that thought in your mind and make sure it represents you completely.
Do the same with all the other positive ideas you cam up with. Believing in them and repeating their essence enables you to make them part of who you are.
This exercise is especially useful when you are aware that you are about to go through a similar experience. You may not be in danger of breaking another vase, but you might be in the situation where something a friend holds dear will be in your hands, in your responsibility.
If you feel stressed and fearful about that situation make sure you recall the positive aspects from your exercise. Repeat them in your mind before the event and your self-confidence will receive a well-deserved boost, allowing you to do your job free from any negative roots to the past.
Explanations for present events can be found by going through some memories, and this practice shows you how to do that. By trying this you will be able to reinterpret yourself, by learning not to judge your actions but to accept and understand them.
Begin by finding a comfortable position, in a chair or armchair. Have a piece of paper or notebook and a pen ready and put them besides you. Try to relax your body and your mind and breathe rhythmically through your nose. When you have achieved a state of increased self-awareness go back in time and think of an unpleasant memory that has marked your entire life.
You don’t have to find something dramatic – in childhood, for example, even the most insignificant looking remark may have a huge impact on your personality. Let’s say that, as a child, you broke a crystal vase that your mother held dear. She might have said: “You can’t do anything right!” Of course, that was just an anger driven reaction on her part that disappeared after a short while but you, as a child, were deeply affected by it.
When you have selected your past event try to briefly write it down and finish with a phrase that summarizes your experience (e.g. “You can’t do anything right!”). Make sure your breathing is still rhythmical and relaxed and then think about a minimum of three things that you can learn from that past experience. Do not get stuck on the final phrase, but try to analyze your action in a non-judgmental manner.
The main idea is to identify and assimilate the things that you could have improved. Don’t quickly dismiss your past problem by saying “it was a child’s mistake”. The goal here is to find out how any mistake can teach you to become better, instead of lowering your self-esteem and confidence.
When you have found a few positive remarks about the past experience try to write them down. Don’t force your mind to come up with the ideas; instead, try to let everything flow naturally. After you’re done writing make sure to read the statements a couple of times and remember their essence.
Put the paper aside and get back to connecting with your breathing. Take a minute or two to focus solely on your breathing and then recall the positive ideas you jotted down on the piece of paper. As an example, in the case of the broken vase, you could write: “I have to concentrate more on my actions”. Repeat that thought in your mind and make sure it represents you completely.
Do the same with all the other positive ideas you cam up with. Believing in them and repeating their essence enables you to make them part of who you are.
This exercise is especially useful when you are aware that you are about to go through a similar experience. You may not be in danger of breaking another vase, but you might be in the situation where something a friend holds dear will be in your hands, in your responsibility.
If you feel stressed and fearful about that situation make sure you recall the positive aspects from your exercise. Repeat them in your mind before the event and your self-confidence will receive a well-deserved boost, allowing you to do your job free from any negative roots to the past.
Thursday, August 17, 2006
Tuesday, August 15, 2006
The Present, The Future and Your investment
I would like to share a saying by the father of nation
The future depends on what we do in the present.
Mahatma Gandhi.
That is a very powerful thought. How this can be harnessed toimprove upon ourselves.
It is quite easy not to work for our self improvement. You do not do any endeavour. Just acept the way you are and build an image about ourselves which varies according to our honesty and sincerity.
But improving ourselves requires courage and hardwork.
Courage because one has to recognize and accept his/her own weaknesses. That is not an easy job. And I say that from my own experience. Even if you recognize the area needing improvement it is not easy task to accept. Your ego always come in between and you end up saying, "Why should I? There are people who are as bad as me or worse and they are still happy and successful".
There were three possible answers that I developed to counter the questions of my ego in my way of self improvement.
First is that those people are living in different set of surrounding. They are in different milieu. The same set of rules does not apply to them. They come from different backgrounds. They do not have same expectations and needs of life as I have. If they appear successful they could have been more successful if they improved upon themselves.
Second was that I do not know whether they are happy. To appear happy is different. To be happy is another.
Third was that they might not be aware of the problems they possess. Afterall recognition is the first step.
Once you recognize your problem area it become imperative that we improve upon that by all possible means otherwise this keeps haunting us.
Earlier you realize this better it is.
Then the hard work starts.
The action requires two things. First is the knowledge of the solution and second the execution of the solution.
For example let us say that you are fat and consider yourself to be far more heavier than you should be. This is recognition of the problem.
The solution to the obesity s diet control and exercise to limit and burn the calories. This is knowledge of the solution.
Doing an exercise and continuing it is the execution of the solution.
This paradigm can be applied to any problem in any sphere of life.
Invest today in yourself so that you have a better tomorrow.
Good Luck.
The future depends on what we do in the present.
Mahatma Gandhi.
That is a very powerful thought. How this can be harnessed toimprove upon ourselves.
It is quite easy not to work for our self improvement. You do not do any endeavour. Just acept the way you are and build an image about ourselves which varies according to our honesty and sincerity.
But improving ourselves requires courage and hardwork.
Courage because one has to recognize and accept his/her own weaknesses. That is not an easy job. And I say that from my own experience. Even if you recognize the area needing improvement it is not easy task to accept. Your ego always come in between and you end up saying, "Why should I? There are people who are as bad as me or worse and they are still happy and successful".
There were three possible answers that I developed to counter the questions of my ego in my way of self improvement.
First is that those people are living in different set of surrounding. They are in different milieu. The same set of rules does not apply to them. They come from different backgrounds. They do not have same expectations and needs of life as I have. If they appear successful they could have been more successful if they improved upon themselves.
Second was that I do not know whether they are happy. To appear happy is different. To be happy is another.
Third was that they might not be aware of the problems they possess. Afterall recognition is the first step.
Once you recognize your problem area it become imperative that we improve upon that by all possible means otherwise this keeps haunting us.
Earlier you realize this better it is.
Then the hard work starts.
The action requires two things. First is the knowledge of the solution and second the execution of the solution.
For example let us say that you are fat and consider yourself to be far more heavier than you should be. This is recognition of the problem.
The solution to the obesity s diet control and exercise to limit and burn the calories. This is knowledge of the solution.
Doing an exercise and continuing it is the execution of the solution.
This paradigm can be applied to any problem in any sphere of life.
Invest today in yourself so that you have a better tomorrow.
Good Luck.
Sunday, August 13, 2006
Emptying Your Cup, Learning Your Lesson!
I read an old Zen story which I wanted to share with you.It is apparently very small and simple story but carries quite powerful message.
A young man wanted to learn the practice of Zen. He had read all the books he could find about Zen. Then he heard about a great Zen master who was considered very knowledged and wise. The young man requested and appointment with him to ask for teachings.
When they were seated, the young man proceeded to tell the master everything he had understood from his reading, saying that Zen is about this and Zen is about that, on and on…
The master listened paiently to every thing the young man talked about.After some time, when the young man had finished his part of telling, the master suggested that they have tea.
The Zen master performed the traditional tea ceremony while the student sat at attention, bowing when served, saying nothing. The master began to pour tea into the student’s cup. He poured until it was full, and kept pouring. The young man was watching with intent.
The tea ran over the edge of the cup and onto the table. The master kept pouring.
The young became restless.
The tea ran over the edge of the cup, on to the table and onto the floor. But the master kept pouring.
It was too much for the young man.Finally, the student couldn’t contain himself any longer. He shouted, “Stop! Stop pouring!"
The master stopped pouring and looked at young man but said nothing.
"The cup is full — no more will go in!” The young man said bowing.
"What shall be do to let more tea in?" the master asked.
"we need to empty the cup." The young man answered quickly.
The master kept the vessel aside. He motioned the young man to be seated and offered him the tea.
As they drank tea the master said, “Just like this cup, your mind is full of your own opinions and preconceptions. How can you learn anything unless you first empty your cup?”
We all would like to improve our lives. We all look for opprtunities to perform better. To look for the keys that carry the answers for our queries.
But like the young man we are all full of our own beliefs and insecurities. We are so sure of them that we do not want them to go. This makes us uncomfortable.
We all reject many chances that are presented in front of us just because we are stubborn and close to something that is worth a trial. We are not open to new idea or discovery that infact might have been the greatest luck thrown upon us.
It has been happening since ages. We are guilty of rejecting the discovery that earth revolves around the sun and not otherwise as we believed at that time.
We had made mockery of the idea that assisted flying is possible for the humans.
Still the generous nature keeps presenting the chances. those who learn from the past mistakes grab the chance. Others walk with closed eyes.
Recently I got an email saying that He knew everything about charisma, attraction and interaction. And he does not think that "Power of Charisma" ebook cannot be of much help.
Well! It might be true for that individual. I also have plenty of emails which have a thank you note.
But that is besides the point.
It is important to have an open mind and analyze the thing before shutting the door. Yes! people do get duped by worthless things. But a cautious appproach would solve that problem.
Remember! The life is a series of lesssons. If you do not learn a lesson well you will need to learn that again.
Free Charisma Course
Power of Charisma Ebook - Know the key to become successful, influential and attractive
A young man wanted to learn the practice of Zen. He had read all the books he could find about Zen. Then he heard about a great Zen master who was considered very knowledged and wise. The young man requested and appointment with him to ask for teachings.
When they were seated, the young man proceeded to tell the master everything he had understood from his reading, saying that Zen is about this and Zen is about that, on and on…
The master listened paiently to every thing the young man talked about.After some time, when the young man had finished his part of telling, the master suggested that they have tea.
The Zen master performed the traditional tea ceremony while the student sat at attention, bowing when served, saying nothing. The master began to pour tea into the student’s cup. He poured until it was full, and kept pouring. The young man was watching with intent.
The tea ran over the edge of the cup and onto the table. The master kept pouring.
The young became restless.
The tea ran over the edge of the cup, on to the table and onto the floor. But the master kept pouring.
It was too much for the young man.Finally, the student couldn’t contain himself any longer. He shouted, “Stop! Stop pouring!"
The master stopped pouring and looked at young man but said nothing.
"The cup is full — no more will go in!” The young man said bowing.
"What shall be do to let more tea in?" the master asked.
"we need to empty the cup." The young man answered quickly.
The master kept the vessel aside. He motioned the young man to be seated and offered him the tea.
As they drank tea the master said, “Just like this cup, your mind is full of your own opinions and preconceptions. How can you learn anything unless you first empty your cup?”
We all would like to improve our lives. We all look for opprtunities to perform better. To look for the keys that carry the answers for our queries.
But like the young man we are all full of our own beliefs and insecurities. We are so sure of them that we do not want them to go. This makes us uncomfortable.
We all reject many chances that are presented in front of us just because we are stubborn and close to something that is worth a trial. We are not open to new idea or discovery that infact might have been the greatest luck thrown upon us.
It has been happening since ages. We are guilty of rejecting the discovery that earth revolves around the sun and not otherwise as we believed at that time.
We had made mockery of the idea that assisted flying is possible for the humans.
Still the generous nature keeps presenting the chances. those who learn from the past mistakes grab the chance. Others walk with closed eyes.
Recently I got an email saying that He knew everything about charisma, attraction and interaction. And he does not think that "Power of Charisma" ebook cannot be of much help.
Well! It might be true for that individual. I also have plenty of emails which have a thank you note.
But that is besides the point.
It is important to have an open mind and analyze the thing before shutting the door. Yes! people do get duped by worthless things. But a cautious appproach would solve that problem.
Remember! The life is a series of lesssons. If you do not learn a lesson well you will need to learn that again.
Free Charisma Course
Power of Charisma Ebook - Know the key to become successful, influential and attractive
Wednesday, August 09, 2006
Do You Have A Clear Defined Purpose?
The dictionary defines purpose as
An anticipated outcome that is intended or that guides your planned actions.
To exude charisma it is very important that one should have a purpose. Have a look at the eminent charismatic personalities. They all have a purpose. A very clearly outlined purpose which is reflected in their personna.
When you have a clear and defined purpose you understand yourself more and are no more in conflict with your thoughts. That brings your mind and body in harmony. Your all efforts are strived towards fulfillment of that purpose and not in clearing the cloudiness when the same undestanding of purpose is absent.
It is best to start with a small achievable goal. When you achieve that goal you can set the next easily because you are already have the confidence built by the prevoius result.
For example decide to have a fit body.Go for it. It is difficult in the beginning. Getting up early, gathering all the energy to wear your track suit. But slowly and slowly the mind concedes.
As you see the results you are already more confident and raring to go for the next one. Nothing flatters the conscious more than a success.
It is important to have a purpose. But you cannot have it just by writing on a notebook and cramming all the way to our bed whole day again and again without attatching any meaning and sincerity to it. That is a useless stuff.
Your purpose will be ultimately determined by your life interest, your expectations and your desire to achieve.
You have just work it to reveal itself by searching your conscious and unconscious mind and listening to them.
More confident you become of yourself easier it will be to define your own purpose
An anticipated outcome that is intended or that guides your planned actions.
To exude charisma it is very important that one should have a purpose. Have a look at the eminent charismatic personalities. They all have a purpose. A very clearly outlined purpose which is reflected in their personna.
When you have a clear and defined purpose you understand yourself more and are no more in conflict with your thoughts. That brings your mind and body in harmony. Your all efforts are strived towards fulfillment of that purpose and not in clearing the cloudiness when the same undestanding of purpose is absent.
It is best to start with a small achievable goal. When you achieve that goal you can set the next easily because you are already have the confidence built by the prevoius result.
For example decide to have a fit body.Go for it. It is difficult in the beginning. Getting up early, gathering all the energy to wear your track suit. But slowly and slowly the mind concedes.
As you see the results you are already more confident and raring to go for the next one. Nothing flatters the conscious more than a success.
It is important to have a purpose. But you cannot have it just by writing on a notebook and cramming all the way to our bed whole day again and again without attatching any meaning and sincerity to it. That is a useless stuff.
Your purpose will be ultimately determined by your life interest, your expectations and your desire to achieve.
You have just work it to reveal itself by searching your conscious and unconscious mind and listening to them.
More confident you become of yourself easier it will be to define your own purpose
Tuesday, August 08, 2006
How to Overcome Stage Fright and Perform Better
While few people may appear natural in this but most of us dread the platform where have to address an audience or group of people. Whenever we try an unknown fear grips ourselves and the process becomes an ordeal.
Because it is not a pleasant experience we start avoiding the situation where we need to stand and speak. It could be a meeting, conference or a larger gathering.
But in today's world one cannot succeed without interpersonal interaction. On one occasion or other you will be asked to speak. So it becomes pertinent that this kind of fear needs to be resolved.
How this can be accomplished?
When we approach the stage usually we become clouded by the emotions that are result of the fear that accompanies us. We try to fight these emotions by suppressing them. Instead of suppressing your emotions try to use them in your advantage. Make them work for you instead of against you.
The most important thing, when you have a public speech, is to let your audience see the real you and not an image you are trying to project. If you try to go in front of them with a fake personality they will sense it and react negatively.
People are a lot more willing to accept someone who is a bit insecure or clumsy rather than accepting a person who is obviously putting on a mask and trying to cover his real personality.
Being you is easy as you need to behave the way you are doing that every day.
Observe your difficulties of speaking to a large audience. Examine and observe your reactions in context. Do not judge yourself. Just observe.
Warm up your mind and body before a presentation. Every muscle of your body should be relaxed and be up to the challenge of you standing up for a longer period of time.
The slightest physical inconvenience will affect your communication, so try to step on stage with a perfect mental and physical condition.
Harness power of breathing. Rhythmical breaths bring a feeling of order and balance exactly what you need before and while you hold your speech. Try to breathe deeply for about ten minutes before you go as this will bring oxygen to your brain, allowing it to function at maximum capacity.
Instead of avoiding make contact with your audience. Try to make eye contact with some audience members and adopt a relaxed posture. Smiling sincerely will always increase the chances of a good presentation. Remember that all those people in front of you are not there to judge you. They are there to receive the information. Therefore it is important for you to focus on the purpose of your speech rather than the attitude of the public towards you.
Your fears come from the fact that you are worried that the audience will pass negative judgment on yourself or your presentation. Ignore this thought end step on stage with the belief that you are there to share information or experience and that you will be met with acceptance and interest.
The more engaging is the presentation, the better everybody will feel.
Communicate with audience members and try to do this on a one on one level. By talking to a certain individual you personalize your performance you make it a part of who you are.
Make a statement and then pause and glance at the public. This helps in building a contact as a non verbal communication claims a vital role in your presentation and the way it is perceived by others.
Last but not the least is practice. Do it again. Analyze. Repeat. Observe gains. Slowly you will find that your performance is becoming better and you are no more afraid of the stage
Become confident, charismatic, attractive and successfully influence people. Visit to find how this ebook can help you at ImproveYourCharisma.com
Because it is not a pleasant experience we start avoiding the situation where we need to stand and speak. It could be a meeting, conference or a larger gathering.
But in today's world one cannot succeed without interpersonal interaction. On one occasion or other you will be asked to speak. So it becomes pertinent that this kind of fear needs to be resolved.
How this can be accomplished?
When we approach the stage usually we become clouded by the emotions that are result of the fear that accompanies us. We try to fight these emotions by suppressing them. Instead of suppressing your emotions try to use them in your advantage. Make them work for you instead of against you.
The most important thing, when you have a public speech, is to let your audience see the real you and not an image you are trying to project. If you try to go in front of them with a fake personality they will sense it and react negatively.
People are a lot more willing to accept someone who is a bit insecure or clumsy rather than accepting a person who is obviously putting on a mask and trying to cover his real personality.
Being you is easy as you need to behave the way you are doing that every day.
Observe your difficulties of speaking to a large audience. Examine and observe your reactions in context. Do not judge yourself. Just observe.
Warm up your mind and body before a presentation. Every muscle of your body should be relaxed and be up to the challenge of you standing up for a longer period of time.
The slightest physical inconvenience will affect your communication, so try to step on stage with a perfect mental and physical condition.
Harness power of breathing. Rhythmical breaths bring a feeling of order and balance exactly what you need before and while you hold your speech. Try to breathe deeply for about ten minutes before you go as this will bring oxygen to your brain, allowing it to function at maximum capacity.
Instead of avoiding make contact with your audience. Try to make eye contact with some audience members and adopt a relaxed posture. Smiling sincerely will always increase the chances of a good presentation. Remember that all those people in front of you are not there to judge you. They are there to receive the information. Therefore it is important for you to focus on the purpose of your speech rather than the attitude of the public towards you.
Your fears come from the fact that you are worried that the audience will pass negative judgment on yourself or your presentation. Ignore this thought end step on stage with the belief that you are there to share information or experience and that you will be met with acceptance and interest.
The more engaging is the presentation, the better everybody will feel.
Communicate with audience members and try to do this on a one on one level. By talking to a certain individual you personalize your performance you make it a part of who you are.
Make a statement and then pause and glance at the public. This helps in building a contact as a non verbal communication claims a vital role in your presentation and the way it is perceived by others.
Last but not the least is practice. Do it again. Analyze. Repeat. Observe gains. Slowly you will find that your performance is becoming better and you are no more afraid of the stage
Become confident, charismatic, attractive and successfully influence people. Visit to find how this ebook can help you at ImproveYourCharisma.com
Sunday, August 06, 2006
Saturday, August 05, 2006
Do I Need This Self Improvement Stuff?
It was long time back when I was still in my MBBS years. One of my friend was reading '7 Habits of Highly Succesful People'. He was quite impressed with the book and recommended that to me.
"I do not need all this improvement stuff", I replied, I am quite content with the way I am."
As the time passed I could not help at introspection. Slowly my ego humbled and I found the flaws with myself. I was arrogant. I was poor at time management. I was hesitant to start a conversation. I never scheduled my goals. I was more emotional than practical.
But I told myself I will improve. I still do not need this improvement stuff.Then I entered into postgraduate course in Orthopedics and my weknesses started manifesting.
I was always a good student. I was best in my school days. I was competitive. I did strive to do the best.But the best was always determined by my surroundings. It is a different when you perform at local schoool level in a countryside school.But it is different when you compete at national level to enter into medical college.
I failed first time.
It was the first failure that I had encountered.
I did make it second time. I needed to study more. I did.
The MBBS is 5 and 1/2 years long course.The goal of pursuing postgraduation comes at the end of the course. Nothing stops one from early goal setting. But I said i was not that practical.
Another failure. Another push. I was in.
Postgraduation was totally different game. You are a doctor who is student at the same time. You need to interact a lot with the patients, colleagues, seniors, staffs, technicians.Suddenly you find that you need to improve upon yourself.
And if you fail to realize this you cannot practise your skills to the extent you would like to.
I looked for directions and help. I observed the successful & effective clinicians. I observed good and not so good surgeons and their habits.I imbibed and learnt.
Of course everything can be learnt. You need only to stress that fact upon yourself.
I learnt a very important fact.
One needs to be open in order to improve.
It was a kind of irony.
I was open to learn from the surroundings but I was not ready to accept that a self improvement book can help me.
This kind of dualty had always existed as I analysed myself retrospectively.
I had always responded to my surroundings but always shut my eyes whenever I had a chance to look beyond.
This needs to be resolved. This needs to solved.
Reluctantly I picked the book my friend recommended long time back.
It may sound ridiculous but as we grow up we instead of mending them start loving our weakness. We show our pride in them. Somehow we convince our minds that we are unique because of the qualities we possess. And when we say qualities we also mean our weaknesses. But we hardly realize that.
Have you heard these statements-
I think with my heart
I do not like to interact much. I am a kind of introvert.
who needs too much money.Why should I work more!
And so on
But somewhere in our minds each us wants success. Each of us wants to get rich. Yet we keep on negating because it does not match our personality we have created for oursleves.
We want to achieve but we are not ready to follow the path success demands.
I was blind as goat when it comes to self improvement books.
I always believed nobody can teach you to become better. But at the same time I was learning from my available milieu. I was learning from somebody. Knowingly or unknowingly somebody was teaching me.
I was open to that idea but closed myself at the mention of the subject.
Slowly I have killed that irrational pride. I am an open person now.
One can learn from anywhereone wants. Same goes for self improvemnt stuff.
Moreover it is not the stuff that teaches us. It is we who learn from that stuff.
The world of today demands a lot of interpersonnel interaction. It is no more a place towered by eminence. The society today demands some basic qualities in order to achieve. Just one talent or quality cannot carry you for. you need to have a set of qualities.
If reading can provoke thought in our mind it is worth it.
"I do not need all this improvement stuff", I replied, I am quite content with the way I am."
As the time passed I could not help at introspection. Slowly my ego humbled and I found the flaws with myself. I was arrogant. I was poor at time management. I was hesitant to start a conversation. I never scheduled my goals. I was more emotional than practical.
But I told myself I will improve. I still do not need this improvement stuff.Then I entered into postgraduate course in Orthopedics and my weknesses started manifesting.
I was always a good student. I was best in my school days. I was competitive. I did strive to do the best.But the best was always determined by my surroundings. It is a different when you perform at local schoool level in a countryside school.But it is different when you compete at national level to enter into medical college.
I failed first time.
It was the first failure that I had encountered.
I did make it second time. I needed to study more. I did.
The MBBS is 5 and 1/2 years long course.The goal of pursuing postgraduation comes at the end of the course. Nothing stops one from early goal setting. But I said i was not that practical.
Another failure. Another push. I was in.
Postgraduation was totally different game. You are a doctor who is student at the same time. You need to interact a lot with the patients, colleagues, seniors, staffs, technicians.Suddenly you find that you need to improve upon yourself.
And if you fail to realize this you cannot practise your skills to the extent you would like to.
I looked for directions and help. I observed the successful & effective clinicians. I observed good and not so good surgeons and their habits.I imbibed and learnt.
Of course everything can be learnt. You need only to stress that fact upon yourself.
I learnt a very important fact.
One needs to be open in order to improve.
It was a kind of irony.
I was open to learn from the surroundings but I was not ready to accept that a self improvement book can help me.
This kind of dualty had always existed as I analysed myself retrospectively.
I had always responded to my surroundings but always shut my eyes whenever I had a chance to look beyond.
This needs to be resolved. This needs to solved.
Reluctantly I picked the book my friend recommended long time back.
It may sound ridiculous but as we grow up we instead of mending them start loving our weakness. We show our pride in them. Somehow we convince our minds that we are unique because of the qualities we possess. And when we say qualities we also mean our weaknesses. But we hardly realize that.
Have you heard these statements-
I think with my heart
I do not like to interact much. I am a kind of introvert.
who needs too much money.Why should I work more!
And so on
But somewhere in our minds each us wants success. Each of us wants to get rich. Yet we keep on negating because it does not match our personality we have created for oursleves.
We want to achieve but we are not ready to follow the path success demands.
I was blind as goat when it comes to self improvement books.
I always believed nobody can teach you to become better. But at the same time I was learning from my available milieu. I was learning from somebody. Knowingly or unknowingly somebody was teaching me.
I was open to that idea but closed myself at the mention of the subject.
Slowly I have killed that irrational pride. I am an open person now.
One can learn from anywhereone wants. Same goes for self improvemnt stuff.
Moreover it is not the stuff that teaches us. It is we who learn from that stuff.
The world of today demands a lot of interpersonnel interaction. It is no more a place towered by eminence. The society today demands some basic qualities in order to achieve. Just one talent or quality cannot carry you for. you need to have a set of qualities.
If reading can provoke thought in our mind it is worth it.
Hello!
This is first post and I am looking for words to write. There is so much to write but how to initiate was the query.
Well! Why not a plain hello.
have a god day.
Well! Why not a plain hello.
have a god day.
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